Every Day In Jiu-Jitsu Class Is A Good Day
Every Day In Jiu-Jitsu Class Is A Good Day
by Ryan Young, Professor, Kama Jiu-Jitsu
How Can Every Day In Jiu-Jitsu Class Be A Good Day?
You’re probably thinking that there are some good days, some bad days in class, right? No one can have a good day, every day!
It’s all in your perspective and interpretation of the “data” you receive when you’re in class.
Perspective and Interpretation?
If you think about it, don’t you have a choice on how any moment feels?
Since the majority of Kama Jiu-Jitsu members are “family” men and women, let’s use an example that fits in with our demographic.
Imagine you’re getting ready for a big meeting with the big boss (or the big client). You got out your best suit and you even woke up early to prepare mentally for this (possibly) career changing meeting in a couple hours.
You’re downstairs having some coffee with your spouse at the kitchen table and your five-year old daughter is also excited; it’s her first day of kindergarten.
She’s been waiting for this day all summer.
She’s so excited, she got up on her own, brushed her teeth and hair, and got dressed, all on her own. She ran downstairs because she heard your voice and wanted to tell you how excited she was. In her excitement, she ran over to you to leap into your lap and give you a great big hug. To your surprise, she leaps into your lap and accidentally hits your arm, which hits your cup of coffee and spills coffee all over your best suit!
- Startled, you brush her off your lap, stand up, and yell, “Look what you did! This is my best suit. I was about ready to leave for a very important meeting and you ruined it! Now what am I supposed to do?!”
Now, your daughter’s initial joy has transformed to tears in her eyes. She absolutely didn’t mean to spill coffee on your suit, let alone ruin both your suit and your meeting.
Because your choice was to react from a “bad” perspective and react by harshly scolding her, she interprets it as she did something hugely wrong. She definitely feels bad about it.
Because of this choice you made, both you and your daughter will have horrible days; and this day just got started!
- Startled, you stop, take a moment to assess the damage (with your daughter still on your lap), see that the only “damage” is you have coffee on your suit (which any dry cleaner can take care of), look at your daughter (whose smile has turned to a frown with tears beginning to well up in her eyes over her feeling guilty for making a mess all over the place), and give her a big hug and a kiss and tell her, “That’s ok. I’ll get this wet suit off, jump in the shower to get this coffee smell off me, get another suit on, and come back downstairs, make another cup of coffee, and you and I will finish breakfast together, ok?”
Same event, totally different reactions.
In the second reaction, both you and your daughter will have much better days. You will continue on to your important meeting (albeit in your 2nd best suit), and have a funny story to tell your boss/client (who likely has had that happen, as well). Your daughter will enter kindergarten with all the excitement and joy she woke up with that morning and will have a memorable first day of school.
The SAME THING CAN HAPPEN In Jiu-Jitsu Class!
Let’s say you have a good day in class. No one was able to capitalize on their offensive techniques against you, and your offense was spot-on, and you were tapping the other members left and right.
What an awesome day, right? All that hard work is paying off!
Now let’s say your day went differently. Everyone was able to capitalize on their offensive techniques against you, and your offense was utterly horrible; you tapped absolutely no one!
What a crappy day, right? After all, why are you even on the mat today?!
Now Try This…
Instead of thinking about how bad your day was in the latter example, where nothing went right offensively or defensively, take a step back and think.
Think about how your defensive and offensive holes in your game have been exposed. The time you want your shortcomings highlighted is when you’re in a casual training session in your home academy with your trusted training partners. This is much better than being exposed in an open mat at another academy, or in a competition or worse, in a street fight!
Think about these “bad” days as “good” days that show you things that need to be worked on.
Improving in jiu-jitsu is both “moving forward” with new techniques and concepts as well as “picking up valuable pieces you may have dropped” in your existing techniques on your rush to move forward and learn something new.
In jiu-jitsu, the “fundamentals” are so important, moving forward without having a thorough understanding on the core concepts will only expose you as your opponents get better.
You’re eventually going to have to address what you’re missing.
Might as well make it a habit to embrace your shortcomings today as something that will make you altogether better tomorrow.
Kama Jiu-Jitsu is the Rickson Gracie Team Academy founded by Professor
David Kama (4th Degree Rickson Gracie Black Belt). Prof Dave began his
teaching duties for Master Rickson in 1993, when he began running
Rickson Gracie’s Laguna Niguel, CA academy. Upon Master Rickson’s
retirement in 2012, Prof Dave renamed Rickson Gracie Laguna Niguel to
Kama Jiu-Jitsu, Part of the Rickson Gracie Team.
Today, Kama Jiu-Jitsu has four (4) academies in CA (Irvine and Laguna
Niguel) and TX (Flower Mound and Trophy Club) where Dave and his team
of black belts teach the traditional Rickson Gracie style of Gracie
Jiu-Jitsu to members of all ages.
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